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READ your column every Sunday and I would like to share my story with you. I'm a divorcee and have raised three children by myself and they are all grown up now. All of them have their own lives and I do feel loney without company by my side. I have longed for a relationship but could not find a match, thanks perhaps to my 12-hour-day work with only one off-day each week.
Sometimes while I am driving or when I reach home, I feel extremely lonely when my children are not at home. Many people have advised me to go out to socialise and mix around. But I dislike going out and prefer to stay home after long hours of work.
I've been thinking what will happen to me when I get older. I know that there are many men out there, but I have no idea where to find them. I am just an ordinary woman who would like to have someone to pamper and take care of me as I am really tired of being alone and working hard for my children all these years.
Lonely Divorcee
IF you think that a guy is the answer to your loneliness, you will not find him if you stay home after work. And be warned that the fellow you could find if you try harder at social networking, might not be the white knight you hope for.
It would be easier not to expect too much if you only wish for companionship. Perhaps the first step would be to keep yourself busy with activities that would help you get out of the house. Having friends to talk to, and share fun and laughter with, will alleviate some of your loneliness. Doing something worthwhile that will keep you interested and energised would be a plus for your peace of mind. And how about charitable work if you feel that you lack focus and reward at this time of your life?
Many women keep busy travelling, building up hobbies or finding interests to fill their days. Do not shut yourself away from your children as you could offer dinner once a week, just to catch up and talk. Although they are busy, they should make time for you, their mother. You have worked hard bringing them up so do not be afraid to ask for time together. You will be a lot happier if you are not always on your own.
We all need love, joy and laughter in our lives. Family is always the warmest and closest. Love from a man may not happen so easily so find other ways to keep yourself contented and fulfilled. When your heart and mind are empty, you will find the hours difficult to pass. So be encouraged by the many women who have found life worth living with or without a man.
